If you are a Christian, there is no reason to date without a trajectory towards marriage. Dating with a trajectory toward marriage means dating with a purpose. It means dating with an understanding of the gospel. And discovering one flaw means it's time to move on.But the beauty of marriage is God sustains you despite your flaws.Dating is an unbiblical method crafted by the world with no boundaries or ethics with the following assumed rules and values: Get Spirit-filled content delivered right to your inbox! Although the above three points are generalizations, they are true depictions of most cases regarding dating; its devastating results on the human soul cannot be fully measured!Even worse, the double-mindedness that results from numerous sexual encounters with various people carries into future relationships and even marriage.This has led many church youth groups to become havens for dating and premarital sex.I am attempting to give some biblical clarity on this all-important subject for the sake of our local churches and for the sanctity and safety of the next generation who will soon have their own families.
This will enable the development of a deep friendship to help discern the will of God before beginning the process of committing to each other more formally.
It means dating someone who meets the values and goals you have for a future spouse (more on that later). It involves sharing personal struggles and vulnerability.
Casual or purposeless dating has no benefit for Christians. We are designed to know why we do stuff and where we are going. Now, please, please, please don't be a freakish weirdo. So if you choose not to get coffee or watch a movie with the opposite sex, then whatever. Don't Date Non-Christians The ultimate purpose of marriage is sanctification (becoming like God). If you love the Cowboys and your future spouse loves the Packers, is it important to work through this before marriage?
Yet dating has caused the most havoc, destroyed countless lives, resulted in unwanted pregnancies and abortions, and even split churches apart.
Since most of the church doesn't teach on this subject, a vacuum exists resulting in our teenagers adopting the worldview of popular culture.