"I was in the more powerful role," says Gomez-Barris, a Ph D and an assistant professor in the sociology and American studies and ethnicity departments.
Despite efforts to save their relationship in counseling, they ended up separating.
Single again at 36, Gomez-Barris dated a few men, none seriously.
"They were not so sure of themselves in their careers or financially," she says.
They kicked off their shoes and ran, laughing, through the rising tide.
"At that point, things were charged with sex," Gomez-Barris remembers.