Here is where what each person is particularly sensitive to – criticism, control, lack of appreciation, not getting enough attention – begins to stir: Chris starts to feel micromanaged, or Kara feels abandoned and is increasingly resentful of his working weekends.
Here is where couples can begin to argue about who is more hurt, who is too sensitive, arguments that can seem endless or destructive. Often by this time in the relationship real-life experiences become part of the mix and challenge.
Finally, this is the time that the couple starts to have serious conversations about the future.
Here they talk about priorities, whether to have kids or not or how many, whether to focus on careers or whether a job is just a job and they rather raise chickens as a hobby.
She obsesses about him all day long, they text all through the day.
The pink clouds of the first stage are fading; reality is rearing its head.What this all translates into for couples is the natural experience that things are settling or a winding down.Routines set in, the hot chemistry is okay, but less hot.Just as marriages move through stages, so too do dating relationships.By mapping out the stages you can know what to expect and anticipate the challenges ahead.